You Are Right Where You Need To Be

There’s no compulsory life checklist.

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Everyday, we are bombarded by the highlight reels of friends, acquaintances and influencers.

So for us to maintain a sense of inner-peace and not question our own self-worth, we need to remain conscious of The Whole Picture.

When it comes to social media, everyone puts their best foot forward. We’ve been programmed to feel the need to show everyone that we’re doing just fine — better than fine, actually. Better than you. Truth or not.

And we’ve witnessed these acts for years. We watch everyone do it, and we do it ourselves. Slowly but surely, we have begun to understand that the image presented on social media is merely a fascade.

We don’t see the arguments with partners or the tears in the shower. We see the good times rather than the hard times, even though the hard times are often the more common of the two.

Remind yourself of this, because you already know it.

Remind yourself that there is no where you need to be. This is your life and you can choose how you want to live it. Your idea of happiness isn’t always going to be the same as someone else’s. You don’t need what they have to be happy. You aren’t less worthy because you don’t have what they have.

• You don’t have to go to college or university, but you’re welcome to try out two or three courses.
• You don’t have to travel but you’re welcome to pack your bags and explore the world for as long as your heart desires.
• You don’t ever need to get married or you could meet the love of your life and get married at 23.
• You don’t need to have children but you’re welcome to have them right now.
• You don’t need a boyfriend or a girlfriend but you could have both (as long as you don’t break any hearts).

That’s not to say you will not have doubts, because you will. You may have regrets or confusion around what steps to take but that’s just part of the human experience and as long as you’re doing what you want to do, you’re doing it right.

You may get derailed by the expectations of loved ones, the constant highlight reel of your friend’s lives through social media, the apparent “social” norm of what we’re expected to be and do and see. You just have to remember that your journey is exactly that, yours, and theirs is theirs and that is that.

All these “life choices” appeal to different minds, hearts and souls.

You can do all of these things or one of these things or none of these things.

There’s no compulsory life checklist and there’s no compulsory order of how we need to live our life. You’re much, much more free than you think you are — it’s your life and you’re the one who needs to live it.